It is Father’s Day this week. To celebrate the day and fathers everywhere, Mr Jimmy Oh, consultant at EtonHouse, shares three tips for daddies out there.
Having been married for 46 years, his advice on fathering comes from many years of experience. He has also had to balance his family duties with his entrepreneurial streak, having started his own business 48 years ago then setting up EtonHouse 22 years ago. His happy marriage has resulted in two sons, aged 39 and 44, and two grandchildren aged 8 and 12.
Here are three pieces of advice from him:
- Make time
This sounds obvious but it takes commitment and a conscious and consistent effort to make time. Throughout my more than 40 years of fatherhood, I always make it a point to have dinner with my family every Sunday. My children and grandchildren are grown up now and lead busy schedules, but we always make time for each other on Sunday evenings.
- Guide and support your children
Each child is different. Do not impose your own aspirations on them, even if you have the best intentions. Take the effort to truly understand their passions and interests. Do not try to control their lives and criticise their decisions. Instead, support their decisions and provide sound advice and candid feedback respectfully. Assure your children that they can always come to you for guidance and moral support.
- Don't raise your voice unnecessarily
There is no need to lose your temper at your children and family. When you feel your anger boiling over, take a moment to think about what effect yelling has on your child, and if you can even achieve anything from shouting at your child. If you often raise your voice at your children, you will very soon learn that shouting does not work. Children respond best to a calm and reasonable approach. Work towards building a strong relationship with your family.